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Asalamo Alaikum
My name is sister Asiya I am 29 years of age and from WestYorkshire,UK
I have a 4 year old girl from my first marriage and my second marriage did not last as I was tricked into marrying someone who did not tell me he was a shia, so that had to end too.
It has been a year since that happened and I live with my mother and siblings. They all keep cursing me and abusing me reminding me of my mistake to remarrying.
I am fed up of all this cursing everyday and it is becoming difficult for me to think straight. I am pracitising more about deen, and I try not to miss my prayers.
I am wanting to move away from home but I cannot live alone as it would not be right, I am stuck there is no way out for me.
Please help me and advise me.
Wasalam
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.
May Allaah reward you for your keenness to adhere to Islam and observe your prayers. You have done well by separating from that man who commits a grave religious innovation. If the case is as you have mentioned that your family blames you for separation, harm and curse you, they have done wrong. We advise them to fear Allaah The Almighty and advise you to be patient with them. You may seek help of virtuous people to explain to them that what you did was correct.
On the other hand, we do not recommend that you live alone in a different place because in countries such as the one you are in, there is a high probability that you would be exposed to harm. Nevertheless, if you are obliged to leave the house and you think you and your daughter will most likely be safe, there will be no blame on you. You should try your best to live among righteous Muslim neighbors.
Finally, the ideal solution to your problem is to ask your Muslim brothers in the Islamic centers and your righteous female friends to help you find a righteous husband. Do not rush into accepting marriage to a man until you investigate his affairs and seek the help of Allaah The Almighty in marrying him. For information about performing Istikhaarah prayer before marriage, see Fatwa 81434. Also, for more benefit see Fatwa 82471.
Allaah Knows best.
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