Afraid to have children due to her childhood bad experience

28-7-2009 | IslamWeb

Question:

i fear to hav children because i am scared of my husband loving my child more than.i was sexually abused by my father when i was a child and was deprived of any parental care and love and feel like that i want some1 to just love me alone.moreover i am also scared that my husband might be drawn to my daughter to make the same mistake my father did.can i stop having kids permanently or until i am assured mentally that i wont lose my husbands love and that my husbands love for me is going to be greater than any other relation on earth and that what was done to me by my father is not going to be repeated by my husband.

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.

 

We have already answered a similar question sent from you. Here we will discuss the issue of having children, because your fears that your husband would love his children more than you, or that you might have a daughter that could be exposed to sexual abuse from her father, as it happened with you, all these are just whispers which you should not pay attention to. Indeed, these incidents which are irregular and contradict the sound human nature are very rare.

Moreover, having children should not be delayed without a sound reason.

For more details, review Fataawa 84086 and 83837.

Allaah Knows best.