Wants to get rid of her talkativeness

4-4-2011 | IslamWeb

Question:

Salams, Dear Bro/ Sis, My weakness is that im very talkative, I really need to reduce this because as you know it is said in Islam to speak when necessary/ or to keep silent.. its a bit difficult for me. Please help me.. Im trying my level best to little by little turn my self into a good believer, for which reducing speaking is very important. Wasalam Zaynab
Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

There is no mention in the Sharee’ah that one is prohibited from talking except in case of necessity, but it was reported that being talkative is dispraised. Jaabir may Allaah be pleased with him narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: ''The dearest and nearest among you to me on the Day of Judgment will be those who are the best of you in conduct, and the most hated among you to me and the farthest of you from me on the Day of Judgment will be the talkative, the pompous and the 'Mutafayhiqoon'. The companions asked him: O Allaah’s Messenger! We know about the talkative and the pompous, but we do not know who the 'Mutafayhiqoon' are. He replied: “The arrogant people.” [At-Tirmithi]

Moreover, Ibn ‘Umar may Allaah be pleased with him narrated that the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) said: ''Do not talk too much without the mention of Allaah, as talking too much without the mention of Allaah causes the heart to harden, and the farthest person from Allaah is that who has a hard heart.” [At-Tirmithi and Ahmad - Shaikh Ahmad Shaakir classified it as Saheeh (sound) and Al-Albaani classified it as Dha’eef (weak)] In any case, the meaning of this Hadeeth is acceptable as it was reported that one should not speak except if he speaks good.

As regards leaving this habit, then it is easy for whoever Allaah made it easy for him, so you should turn to Allaah and ask Him to help you, and if you are sincere in doing so, Allaah will enable you to achieve it. Also, what would help you in this regard is to consider the benefit of keeping silent except if you speak good, and consider the disadvantages that could be resulted from being talkative for one’s religion and worldly matters.

Finally, dear sister, we advise you to be keen on keeping company with pious and righteous Muslim women and attend the circles of knowledge with them, this is one of the best means to help you to be a pious woman.

May Allaah enable you to be steadfast on righteousness and make you firm on the right path.

Allaah Knows best.

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