Her uncle sexually abused her when she was young
16-5-2012 | IslamWeb
Question:
A girl was child sex abused when she was 3rd or 4th grade. Her uncle asked her to remove her clothes, just made her slept on his body for 2 times. Her uncle just asked her mom to take the girl along with him to his home,her mom sent thinking granny will be there, as she use to go granny place. As soon as this happened, her mom came in search of the girl, the girl thought(oh if my mom had come just before, we wud had been caught) The girl knows its wrong thts why she thought in mind (oh my mom had come just before we wud had been caught), but dint tell to her uncle she removed the clothes. wht i wud like to know, does she did wantedly. how girls reach with adult oral sex when they are in 3rd grade or 4th grade(7or 8yrs). Does the girl has to tell her parents now? The girl is now 34yrs old. she is suffering from pain, depression. She constantly thinks, why dint i stop or tell to her mom. Thts wrong she knew that why she thought in mind(oh my mom had come just before we wud had been caught). Her uncle called her other time, she thought in mind(oh he will make me to remove my clothes, but dint stop she went and did again) When she grew up, she fell in love with lot of guys, one after other just came in her life, they just played with her body,she dint had intercourse. she allowed them to touch her. Now she regrets for what she did, she always thinks of past and regret worried abt akhirah and day of judgement, she cannot lead a normal human life. she is married and has 2 kids. Recently she got to know, she has jinn on her body. Why did so allowed lot of guys in her life just to play with her body. she was not remembering allah and not praying. Now she does, the more she get close to allah, the more pain she has, she remember this past incidents. What wud u suggest for her? is there any solution. will allah forgive her sins, bcoz she cannot lead a normal life. she is struggling with past bitter experience.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
It is indeed a great calamity that evil comes from someone whom we usually feel safe from his evil, so how does an uncle dare to do these evil matters with the daughter of his brother/sister especially that she is a young girl and it is expected that he would discipline her and guide her instead of him abusing her like a wolf? There is no might nor power except with Allaah!
In any case, we advise this sister to take it easy as she is not held accountable for these evil acts that took place with her uncle as she did so before the age of puberty. Even if she did them out of her own free will, she will not be held accountable for her acts as at that time she was under the age of Takleef (accountability). For more benefit, please refer to Fatwa 92178.
Therefore, she should completely refrain from thinking about these unfortunate events and not let the devil make her feel bad or make her life miserable. Moreover, she should not inform anybody about this, neither her parents nor anyone else.
However, she must repent from the illicit relations which she established with some young people after she had reached puberty, and she should regret what she did and think good of Allaah. Indeed, whoever repents, Allaah will accept his repentance. Also, she should be careful not to despair of the mercy of Allaah as this is a great sin. Allaah Says (what means): {Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allaah except the disbelieving people.}[Quran 12:87]
For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 86527 and 88529.
Finally, we advise this sister to preoccupy her time with what benefits her religion and her worldly life and to keep company with her pious Muslim sisters so that she would forget the past because whoever repents from sin is like the one who has never committed a sin.
Allaah Knows best.