Her husband confessed practicing sodomy, but he denied it later

11-7-2014 | IslamWeb

Question:

Hi , Someone I know is a woman whose husband is suspected to be a gay .The husband accepted it once and now denies. The woman didn't knew when she marry him. Now the guy is an active gay but not admitting it anymore but on the same time he forces wife to do sex with him. The woman is scared of getting a disease . Is it a sin to deny husband whom she is scared of getting a disease? The woman is financially dependent on him and have kids. So she cannot leave him. What she should do?

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Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and messenger.

In principle, Muslims are to be deemed cleared of any reputation-damaging accusations, especially those pertaining to their honor. It is impermissible for the Muslim to think ill of his fellow Muslims. Allaah, The Exalted, says (what means): {O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin…} [Quran 49:12]

The fact that this man confessed practicing sodomy is a point, and his denial later on is another point. Perhaps he has repented of such a disgraceful and awful misdeed. In fact, he should be believed to be truthful (about denying it) unless proven otherwise.

It should be noted that it is impermissible for the wife to refuse her husband’s request to have intimate relations with her without a legitimate excuse, given the severe warnings concerning such a refusal. This had been underlined in Fataawa 85219 and 81787. 

Suspicions alone do not constitute a valid reason for the wife to refuse her husband’s request for sexual intimacy. We have highlighted in Fataawa 117370 and 138648 what the wife should do if it is proven that her husband is guilty of sodomy.

Allaah Knows best.