Her friends/relatives smoke Sheeshah whenever they get together
20-2-2015 | IslamWeb
Question:
Asalamu Alaikum, I have friends/relatives that whenever they get together smoke shisha. They invite me over and I sit with them but don't smoke because it's haram. They don't listen when I tell them it's haram and some will go to the point of denying that it's haram no matter what proof I give them or whoever scholar they hear. I've been feeling bad because isn't it wrong to sit in a gathering where Allah is being disobeyed? And sometimes my children come with me and I don't want them to see it as something common and they also have asthma. So, am I sinning for attending these gatherings? And what if the house is big and I leave the room for another area in the house that doesn't have shisha or should I just not go altogether? And my family accuses me of cutting off kinship for refusing to attend family gatherings because of these things like shisha, but I still love them and talk to them and willing to meet them anywhere else where there is no haram. Please advise me and jazakum Allahu khair!
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His slave and Messenger.
You should advise those relatives and friends of yours with wisdom and gentleness; if they persistently reject your advice, then you are obliged to leave the gatherings when they are smoking Sheeshah (hubble bubble). In fact, such behavior on your part does not consist in cutting ties of kinship with them; rather, it is an obligation to forbid evil, and leaving the gatherings in which evil is committed is a kind of forbidding evil. There is no harm in leaving the room where they are smoking and staying in another room in the house.
We advise you to seek the company of righteous Muslim women. Abu Musa Al-Ash‘ari 
reported that the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said: "The righteous companion and the evil companion are comparable to one bearing musk and one blowing a pair of bellows. The one bearing musk will either give you some perfume as a present, or you will buy some from him, or you will find a good scent from him; but the one blowing a pair of bellows, he either burns your clothes or you find a repugnant smell from him." [Al-Bukhari and Muslim]
Allaah Knows best.