Who is responsible for marrying youth?
23-1-2014 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am a young man and have a desire for marriage. My family, and particularly my sisters, told me that they had nothing to do with me and would not help me propose to any girl, given that my relation with them is strong, all perfect praise be to Allaah; and my father would not aid me with anything, for he wasted all his property on trivial things. What should I do to get married? Give me a solution. May Allaah Reward you.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, is His Slave and Messenger.
Marriage is one of the Signs of Allaah in His creatures, and one of His favors that He Conferred on His slaves, and it is due to every youth upon his community. Should your family leave you, without aiding you or even choosing a suitable wife for you, then you have to rely on Allaah Almighty first and foremost, and then on yourself and your relatives and friends, until you marry the woman who befits you. Of course, you would not fail to get the aid of charitable men and doers of good. In this respect, you could seek the aid of civil charities and assemblies, and those concerned with social affairs.
You should know that you have to rely on Allaah, and then on yourself. A lot of young men go on their way by themselves, with no aid from anyone, depending on Allaah Almighty, and then on their own efforts.
The advice we give to you is to fear Allaah Almighty, and seek a religious woman (for marriage). It was narrated on the authority of Abu Hurayrah 
that the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:
A woman is married for four (characteristics): her wealth, her noble ancestry, her beauty and her religion. So, behold! Win the religious woman, lest you lose (good). [At-Tirmithi]
We ask Allaah Almighty for help and success for you and us.