Affected With Whispers about Divorce
7-10-2018 | IslamWeb
Question:
As salamu alaikum. Please urgently answer my query because my sanity, life and faith depends on it. I suffer from severe waswas and feel like I would kill myself or go insane. I remember an incident where my husband insulted Allah SWT ( Naujubillah) and repented. We later had an issue of conditional talaq (could be tripple). As I have severe anxiety to follow minority opinion I try to follow one madhab Hanafi to save myself from waswas. Hanafi Sheikh gave us opinion that talaq did not occur due to marriage being annuled for husband saying kufr words. So he re-married us. Husband thinks our marriage is fine now that we remarried. Before asking Sheikh, when I reminded my husband that you said "such and such", he first said he remembers saying bad word about Allah but does not remember exactly saying "such and such". Now after that we re-married, I am having doubts, I ask him and he confidently says, "I did say about Allah "such and such" and I repented. But talaq did not occur as hanafi scholar said and we remarried. Now there is no room for doubt. But I am afraid that at first he said he does not remember the curse word, now saying he exactly remembers. Is he lying? Or does he think he said "such and such" because I told him so? When he confirms saying that I feel a relief in heart that marriage is fine now. Then again I fear that how can I find relief in heart when he confirms such a kufr statement just so that I become sure of my marital state. Am I falling into kufr unknowingly by asking him what he said and finding relief about marriage when he confirms? I dont want anyone insulting Allah (Naujubillah) to save my marriage. This is just to confirm past incident to know for sure where we stand. I hate doing this. But I also hate in being such a waswas state where I dont know if I am married anymore. Please give me definite answer according to hanafi view so that I can repent and lead a halal and peaceful life. Please also pray for my healing and guidance.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
First of all, we ask Allah to heal you. You should know that the treatment for whispers is to repel them and not pay any attention to them.
With regard to divorce, the Fatwa about it is similar to the judicial ruling. In many cases, there is a need to ask the spouses orally. It is for this reason that a group of Imams, such as Sufyan ath-Thawri, abstained from issuing Fatwa about divorce.
Since you have asked a trustworthy scholar about a Fatwa and he issued a Fatwa to you that divorce did not occur, then act according to his Fatwa and you will be acquitted from sin by following his view. Do not ask again [about the same thing] without a reason.
Asking the same question again causes confusion, especially that you are affected with whispers.
There is no doubt that you have absolutely not become a Kafir by what you mentioned in your question.
Allah knows best.