Telephone conversation between men and women

17-12-1999 | IslamWeb

Question:

I have loved a girl who helped me a lot to come and realize the truth of my religion. She opened my eyes after ALLAH filled my heart with eman. We talk to each other on the phone and I have to admit that we sometimes get into silly conversation, but we can't help it. I don't want to lose her; I even stopped studying and joined a computer institute to quickly complete work and engage her from her parents. By the way, she refused a proposal which came her way. Do you think I should still talk to her or will it be a very great sin?
Answer:

All perfect praise be to Allah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allah, and that Muhammad sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) is His slave and Messenger.

It is not permissible for you to talk with this girl over the phone especially that you mentioned that this leads you to silly conversations.

Nonetheless, if you love this girl and think that she could be a pious wife if you marry her, then you should propose to her in a legal way and then stop talking to her as she is still a non-Mahram woman to you until you marry her. Afterwards, you should seek the Help of Allah and endeavor to acquire the wedding requirements and marry her. Then, you should both endeavor to become pious and abide by the Sharee’ah of Allah till you build together a home of ‘Eemaan (faith) in which you nurture a pious generation of believers.

Allah knows best.

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