Seeks reasons daughter stopped praying

24-2-2001 | IslamWeb

Question:

My daughter got married when she was nineteen and after her marriage she became sick. She had depression and stopped praying. She has lost her concentration. This marriage lasted for three years and now she is divorced. I always wonder what happened to her. I pray all the time for her and my family is worried. I want to know what happened. Is it possible that Satan influenced her or this is saher(Magic)? I want her to start praying, so what shall I do?

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Answer:

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.
The reason behind this behavior change of your daughter might be her moving from an environment to which she was accustomed to a completely new environment to her. This might have had an influence on her state of mind.
It is also probable that she was struck by an evil eye or any other illness. Under all circumstances, she should have turned towards her Creator, Allah, The Almighty and should not have done the opposite. Pessimism should not have come to her heart; instead she should have been optimistic. May Allah have Mercy on Prophet Jacob who lost two of his children, Joseph and his brother, and he multiplied his Dhikr (remembrance of Allah). He turned Him, submitted himself to His Will and stayed optimistic of what would come later. Allah Says these are the words Jacob said: {"O my sons! Go you and enquire about Yûsuf (Joseph) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allâh's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allâh's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve." }[12:87].
So, your obligation towards her now is to help her get closer to Allah, as this is the only way she can recover from her crisis. Try to convince her to perform all obligatory acts and do as many supererogatory ones as she can.
She should make as much Dhikr and repentance to Allah as she can. Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {Verily, in the remembrance of Allâh do hearts find rest.{13:28].
She should perform all the prayers in their fixed times. Let her know the reward of performing Salat and the punishment of neglecting it. In fact Salat is a relationship between the person and his Lord, and it is a way of strengthening ones belief in Allah. The Prophet said: "There is enough in Salat that preoccupy 'the person'". [Abu Dawood and Tirmizi] She needs to become confident again as the weakness of the personality is a gate through which all psychological problems can invade the person, leaving him/her restless. Make sure that she does not feel any inferiority towards you. Treat her in an intelligent manner otherwise she might ever get worse.
Moreover, you could take her to a pious and righteous Sheikh known for following Sunnah and doing legal Ruqiya (treating by Qur'an). We ask Allah the Almighty to cure her.
Allah knows best.