Can't control himself during wife's menses

14-6-2003 | IslamWeb

Question:

I don't know what to do. I am married and my wife has her period every month. I can't have a sex with her, and I can't control myself. What should I do?

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Answer:

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. Having sexual intercourse with one's wife while she is menstruating is prohibited. Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they have purified (from menses and have taken a bath). …}[2: 222]. But the husband can enjoy his menstruating wife in the area above the navel and underneath the knee. Some scholars like Ahmad and Ishaq believe that it is lawful to enjoy one's wife anywhere provided one avoids the vagina and the anus. As for having intercourse with one's wife in her vagina while in her period, it is forbidden and even considered a major sin. Ahmad and Al-Tirmizi reported in a sound Hadith that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) said: "Whoever has sexual intercourse with his menstruating wife or with a woman in her anus, he disbelieves in what was revealed to Muhammad " . Al-albani 'grades this Hadith as correct' . Allah knows best.