Sex with husband not satisfying
25-6-2003 | IslamWeb
Question:
I have been married for two years now. I am 17 years old and my husband is 26. The amount of sex he gives me is not enough. I always have the desire. Just a while ago, I used to masturbate allot. I had an orgasm 2-3 a day while he was at work. I always felt guilty and repented. Now I have stopped, Al-Hamdu Lillah! But he still does not give me enough sex. I am tempted to masturbate again. I tried fasting but that makes me have more desires. When we do have sex, it is either too slow so that he doesn't ejaculate too fast or we have it fast and he ejaculates fast. It is very difficult for me because I got married at such a young age to keep chaste. Please help. I don't know who else to ask. I am embarrassed.
Answer:
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. One of the most important rights of the wife is to satisfy her sexual desire. This right is more emphasized than her right for expenditure. The obligatory sexual intercourse should be sufficient to meet the wife's sexual desire without harming himself. This differs from one man to the other and from one woman to the other. The husband should know that when he has intercourse with his wife with the intention of preserving her chastity Allah rewards him for that. We would like to urge this young wife to stop practicing masturbation as it is a form of the transgressions mentioned in the following verse: {But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors;}[23: 7]. Moreover, she should disclose to her husband what she feels. But more importantly, we advise her to spend her free time in that which would profit her in this life and the Hereafter. In fact, if one does not occupy himself in that which is good, his time is stolen by bad thought, and sinful acts. Now, if the wife is alone at home and her husband is at work, she should use that free time in learning the Qur'an and the good useful books as well as performing good and lawful leisure activities. Allah knows best.