Fiancé wants her to take off Hijab
24-9-2003 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am 24 yrs old and recently engaged. I have been in contact with my fiancée over the Internet to clear some issues before marriage. I practise full Hijab and want to do so after marriage too. My fiancée is not so religiously inclined and is insisting on the removal of my Hijab after marriage. I have been disobedient to my parents in this matter too, by refusing to remove my Hijab. I would like to know if it will be a sin on my part if I refuse to remove it after marriage and will it count as an act of disobedience to my husband and make me a sinner. Please suggest what steps should I undertake in this situation as I have tried convincing my fiancée by using various Ayahs from the Qur'an and authentic Ahadith but he refuses to listen to them. Also his family is not at all religious and there will be total interaction amongst non-Mahrams with me in his family. In such a situation will it count as a sin on my part if they interact with me as I cannot stop them doing so. Also I cannot get out of this proposal as it has been finally settled.
Answer:
Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and may His blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions. Praise Allah Who has guided you to wear Hijab and to follow His Shariah. You are not allowed to obey your fiancé, family or anyone else in taking off your Hijab because Allah and His Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi wa Sallam) ordered every Muslimah to wear Hijab. So, you have to cover yourself and avoid mixing with those who are not Maharim for you. Try your best to convince your family and your fiancé of the importance of Hijab, and warn them against the disobedience of Allah and His Commands. Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {…And let those who oppose the Messenger's (Muhammad SAW) commandment (i.e. his Sunnah legal ways, orders, acts of worship, statements, etc.) (among the sects) beware, lest some Fitnah (disbelief, trials, afflictions, earthquakes, killing, overpowered by a tyrant, etc.) befall them or a painful torment be inflicted on them. }[24:63]. You may seek the help of religious family members in this regard. If your fiancé respects your viewpoint then be thankful to Allah Who has guided him to the truth. If he does not accept your advice and insists on your taking off your Hijab, then you should not abide by his suggestion, since no one is worth obedience in disobeying Allah. You will be rewarded for not approving of your fiancé's demand to take off your Hijab and for disobeying him in this regard. On the contrary, you will commit sin if you take off your Hijab. Moreover, you must cancel your engagement with the person who does not permit you to wear Hijab. He is not a suitable match for you, since he lacks respect for Shariah. In fact, if one gives up something for the Sake of Allah, Allah will grant him better than what he had left. However, canceling an engagement is an easy matter, so it is very possible to cancel it before accomplishment of the marriage contract since you have the right to cancel it. Even if the marriage contract has already been completed you may cancel it by asking for divorce or Kul'a. May Allah bless you and ease your matters. Allah knows best.