Has confused dreams after parents rejected his marriage plans
16-9-2004 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am loved with a girl, she to love me. She was Ahmadi by religion. I am Sunni. She left religion Ahmadi as I teach what is wrong in Ahmadi and she herself find she is wrong. She is no more Ahmadi. My parents are not ready to marry me to her as I told them. I want to marry her after that I did Istikhaara for two weeks I find nothing from Istikhaara but some one told that clean your room (take out all Najasaat) then do, I did again one night I saw dream near Fajr time (that some one is throttling me very forcedly (I don't know that person) in mean time I one friend of see me in this condition he tried to help me but I say him leave me alone and don't tell any body leave me on my condition. So he left)). After that I wake up and hear Fajr Salaat. I also get wet dream and my neck was really too much in pain. I did again Istikhaara for this matter after 3 days and I see dream I am standing in bathroom of my hostel and doing after shave of mine. Again I did I see dream we both standing in college and I have fight with someone then I say her do you want come with me then she come and sit with me in my car and we drive away some unknown place. Again I did then one night I didn't see any dream but when I woke my heart was beating to much and I was feeling from my heart that I want to meet her in any condition. Now I confused between my first dream (it is negative) and remaining please guide me I am waiting for your reply.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
Islaamweb is not specialized in interpreting dreams so we are unable to interpret your dream. As regards getting married to this girl, if she is of good religion and conduct, there is no harm in marrying her with the consent of your parents. However, if they disagree, then try to convince them, and if they still absolutely disagree, you have to obey them, as obeying them is obeying Allaah, and Allaah will recompense you with a better woman, as there are many of them.
We draw the attention of the questioner that it is not permissible for a man to meet a woman and to be in seclusion with her, or shake hands with her, as that is prohibited and leads to being attracted to her, and subsequently to committing adultery or fornication, we seek refuge in Allaah from that.
The Prophet 
said: "A man must not be alone with a woman except in the presence of her Mahram (a non-marriageable relative)." [Al-Bukhari] The Prophet further said: "No man should stay alone with a (marriageable) woman as Satan is their third (partner)." [At-Tirmithi] In another narration the Prophet said: "It would be better for one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron rod than to touch a woman whom he is not permitted to touch." [At-Tabaraani and others]
Saying that 'you have to meet her by any means' is a matter that is not permissible and you must abstain from doing that.
Allaah knows best.