Troubled by past sexual experiences
21-10-2004 | IslamWeb
Question:
I am praying to become a good Muslim. This is to much for me, I do not want to tell my husband, because I love him, I am suffering because I done mistake. Before marriage I was rape after marriage I had affairs. Now the problem, I think I've got evil sprit, I came out from quite a lot, but still suffering, it started last 4 months ago; I can control men with my power. May be killing or make them suffer, it started in June 2004, every week I feel different, reading people mind, can tell the future, etc., suddenly realise who I am telling about the future, Only Allaah knows what will happen. Please help I need a good advise so I can become a good Muslim. How can Allaah forgive me? Do you think Allaah will forgive me after what has happen to me and what I done. I want to be normal person and a good Muslim. I ask for advise before nobody answer me, I am desperate, because I am suffering it hard for me, I understand whoever look at me evil away, main time it's killing me, I am trying by praying Salah and reading Qur'aan. I am feeling very sorry for my mistake. Allaah will help you if you advise me. I will be waiting for you reply. Please help me.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
There is no doubt that the affairs that you had after marriage are major great sins, so you have to repent to Allaah. You have to know also that whoever repents to Allaah, Allaah accepts his repentance, and His Mercy is vast, therefore you should not despair of His Mercy. Allaah says (interpretation of meaning): {And verily, I am indeed Forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them, (till his death).}[20:82]. So you have to think good of Allaah and perform righteous deeds in the future and avoid any means that could lead to temptation again and conceal your sin and do not inform anybody at all about it, even your husband.
As regards the stress that you are suffering from, you can consult a trustworthy psychologist. It could also be a Jinn or the like, so you have to seek Ruqyah from the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah, and the supplications and remembrance. In this matter you can seek the help of a righteous person while observing the religious requirements like wearing Hijab and not being alone with him if he is a marriageable man. The best way of seeking treatment is to be steadfast on the religion of Allaah especially wearing Hijab and observing the obligations and continue to recite of the morning and evening special supplications.
Allaah knows best.