Her husband does not pay support
20-10-2004 | IslamWeb
Question:
I live in Canada and all my family in Egypt and my husband takes low salary it's enough for us exactly and some time our account become by minus. Since I married he give his brother 4000 dollar since three years now and he almost did not pay anything and when we give his brother this money we were not having it we take from loan and we just finish it from three months. Now my husband wants to give his father and mother money 100 dollars per month and we do not have this money specially we have kids. I want to tell that his father works and takes low salary but my husband says it is not enough, so I am fed up I can't take all this responsibility. We do not have money and I stay alone in this country that's too much pressure. Swear by God we do not buy things as all people we wait for sale to buy everything so my question is my husband writes to give his parent money?
Notice: He has other two brothers and their father still works (takes low salary) what about me? I am fed up when I will make something for my kids? Answer me soon.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
There is no doubt that your parents-in-law have a great right on their son, and Allaah paralleled his right to the right of the parents as He says (interpretation of meaning): {Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination.}[31:14]. His parents experienced hardship because of him. His mother carried him in her womb and spent sleepless nights because of him, and did everything to nurture him. His father was also exhausted in earning the daily bread to provide for him. No matter how much money he gives to them, he will never fulfil their right on him. You and your children also have a right on him. It is confirmed that the Prophet 
said: "It is enough sin (i.e. to destroy a person) on a person to neglect those who are under his guardianship." [Abu Daawood]. So we advise your husband to seek to fulfill the rights of his family and be kind to his parents according to reasonable limits. His brothers should also participate in being kind to their parents. We advise you to help your husband in being dutiful to his parents and in running the affairs of his home. This may make your husband give you more consideration, and lead to improved marital relations between you and him. Being kind to his parents could be a reason of gaining one's daily bread, and having his earnings blessed, and a reason for your children becoming righteous.
Finally, we would like to draw your attention to the following matters:
Firstly, be careful not to let this matter become a cause of separation between yourselves.
Secondly, it is your husband who gave this money to his brother as a loan, and he can ask for its return or forgive it.
Thirdly, residing in a non-Muslim country is not permissible except for a necessity.
Allaah knows best.