Wants to forget his wife's past but cannot
14-6-2005 | IslamWeb
Question:
I've married a woman who converted to Islam when we first met. But she had boyfriends in the past and a daughter. Now I get these feelings that I don't have respect for her and its ruining my life. Knowing she is a good person, obedient very respectful, and really a good wife. I know Allaah would forgive any person no matter what he did in the past especially if she wasn't Muslim. In fact her boyfriend was Moroccan Muslim. He used to drink, smoke, no job and took money from she and left. I don't want to repeat the same scenario and leave for no reason after Al-hamdulillah, Allaah Had guided her to the right path. My question is should her past be for Allaah to judge and is not my business because all that happened before I knew her. Or should I leave her and move on with my life knowing she is pregnant and about to have an abortion because I really don't know what to do. Or did I do a great job and Allaah will reward me for that in the hereafter. I really love her she prays and does all what Islam says but those feelings and thoughts are ruining my life and live in Hell day and night please guide what to do?
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad 
is His slave and Messenger.
The Prophet said: "Islam wipes out all the previous (misdeeds)?" [Muslim] Since this woman has become a Muslim, she is not going to be held accountable, Allaah willing, for her bad deeds before she embraced Islam. Indeed, the Mercy of Allaah is vast, as Allaah Says (what means): {And verily, I am indeed Forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them, (till his death).}[Quran 20:82]
Therefore, you are not sinful about her acts of disobedience before you married her, so you should not worry about this and you should not be preoccupied by this matter. Rather, you should try to put an end to the whispers of the devil who wants to spoil your life and make you sorrowful. Since this woman has repented and became righteous, then it is more appropriate to keep her as your wife and you should have the intention of protecting her chastity and Allaah will reward you for this intention. Indeed, you will be greatly rewarded by Allaah, Allaah willing.
Finally, we advise you to endeavour to protect her and her religion by teaching her the religious rulings, and oblige her to wear Hijab, to avoid mixing with marriageable men, and so forth.
As regards carrying out an abortion, then this is forbidden except in case of an absolute necessity, so she should not do so, and you should not let her do so.
For more benefit on the ruling about abortion, please refer to Fataawa 87467 and 89880.
Allaah Knows best.