His non-Muslim wife invites her friends to drink wine at home
25-1-2006 | IslamWeb
Question:
I would like you to advice me on the following subject Insha Allaah; I am married to non-Muslim woman; sometimes the relation goes very tense. I am finding it hard to convince her about things that she doesn't believe in and particularly we have two kids together. She thinks I am not flexible and I see everything not allowed or forbidden. I'll give you an example: she is a teacher and at the end of last year her students gave her a bottle of wine which she took home even though she doesn't drink neither smoke she kept it home for a while at the seen of everyone. However, one day she invited her friends and she asked them they are welcome to rink it at our place, I opposed the idea of having it drank at our place because this is forbidden. Furthermore, we got married in a mosque and the registry office but she still thinks for her to be accepted on her religion we need to be blessed by a priest which I think this is Shirk i.e. associated someone else with Allaah. Please I am not ignored of my religion but I just need your consul and advice on this matter for the sake of my innocent children.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
Even though it is allowed in principle to marry the women of the People of the Book, it becomes disliked to marry them because of the contemporary disadvantages that could result from such marriage. We have already clarified this in Fatwa 84724, and your situation with your wife is the best example.
Your wife is sinful as she brought the wine to your home and invited some people to drink it. This matter is even more sinful if there are among the people whom she invited alien men. Indeed Allaah considered the man as the protector and provider in his home, so if the woman exceeds the limits and does not obey her husband in things she is obliged to obey him, then she is a disobedient woman. In this case the husband should treat her as a disobedient woman and should follow the steps clarified by Allaah when dealing with such a woman. This is discussed in Fatwa 89480. If the attempts to turn her into a righteous woman are of no avail, then it is better to divorce her, as there is no good in keeping her as a wife in this situation and she has no right in the fostering of the children. Please refer to Fatwa 89418 regarding the fostering of children.
As regards going to the church in order to seek blessings from the priest, then this is forbidden, rather this is Shirk [associating partners to Allaah] as you mentioned.
Allaah Knows best.