His wife asks him to insert a penis – shaped ice item in her anus during intercourse
22-1-2007 | IslamWeb
Question:
Salaam brothers, Firstly I apologise for any inconvinience I cause to you due to this question. I am going to be open with you. My wife and i both are in kowledge of the fact that anal sex is haram. My wife has some desires. She wants me to perform intercause with her (vaginal) and at the same time me to insert a piece ice in a shape of a penis in to her rectum. Is this act permisable (not prohibited) for us. Please answear my question A.S.A.P. I apologise again. Salam.
Answer:
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad is His slave and Messenger. We ask Allaah to exalt his mention as well as that of his family and all his companions.
It is permissible for each spouse to enjoy the entire body of the other, to look at it and touch it even the private parts with the exception of the two following matters:
1) To have sexual intercourse in the vagina when the wife is in menses or during post partum bleeding.
2) To have anal sex.
There is evidence in the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah of the Prophet 
that the above two cases are prohibited. Apart from the two above cases, everything else is permissible.
However, what you mentioned could lead to something more obnoxious which is anal sex. Indeed, the devil lures a person step by step until he leads him to commit major grave sins, by inciting him to commit small sins at the beginning, and then he gradually moves him until he leads him to destruction.
Indeed, the Prophet gave us a clear example as he said: "… The example of this is like the shepherd who grazes his herd in the vicinity of an exclusively reserved pasture but it is always apprehensive that some of his animals might get into the pasture."
Moreover, this practice (putting ice in the anus) could cause a heath problem, or one may touch an impurity when doing so, and it is enough to say that each one of these two things is forbidden.
For more benefit on the ruling of inserting objects in the anus in general, please refer to Fataawa 89146 and 89475.